Grudges stay with you, like chewing gum on the bottom of your shoe or the US deficit. You probably have a belief that holding onto resentment will prevent you from ever being taken advantage of again. Ironically, a grudge maintains the illusion of having control while making you more vulnerable.
For example, if your co-worker is giving a presentation at a specially-called meeting, you may figure out a reason not to attend because of a grudge you hold against him. As a result, you are uninformed of a crucial decision made at the meeting, and it may affect your job performance; therefore, status.
Maybe you hold onto a grudge because you want to get even. You may believe that letting go of your grudge is too easy on the other person. In reality, revenge is rarely satisfying.
Holding onto a grudge is something we, as human beings do. At one time or another, you probably have found someone’s behavior or intentions unforgivable. A grudge works like a slow leak, a small hole through which your energy continually seeps.
Letting go of a grudge is healing. Finding a more constructive way to deal with your feelings and emotions is the key – you don’t have to wait for the offending person to apologize – you might be waiting for a long time or forever.
Holding onto grudges can cause mental stress, physical stress and can block progress in life. So, who wins by your holding onto a grudge? –
Not you!
Word of the week – Forgive – To excuse for a fault or offense; to pardon.
Ask yourself: What grudges have you held onto and how have they been of benefit or detriment?
Speaking With a Purpose: “I help you bridge the gap between … Where you are versus where you want to be.” My ultimate goal – help you become a better you!
